No.
I met my wife in the mid 2000s. i have been married for almost 20 years. That's partly why i got out because i was not willing to sacrifice my marriage for an uncaring, incompetently managed navy that goes "needs of the navy" instead of "needs of the country"
I am going to be brutally frank with you: that woman is faker than anime. She has thousands of dollars in makeup applied to her face, by a professional who is paid a fortune to do so. Everything is picked out to look nice and sell that image. She is a product, a pretty bird in a gilded cage that they charge hundreds of dollars to you for the "privilege of seeing"
IT's cruel and exploitive on so many levels.
I shall now free you with the truth:
You are the harshest judge of yourself. This is not a bad thing, as you hold yourself to a standard that you wish to achieve. Yet due to your harsh judgement you see yourself as a failure, and you incorrectly gauging yourself by false standards set by a society to demoralize you. It's ok to have setbacks. IT's ok to be confused, it's ok to not know who you are, to be worried about the future. Those are normal healthy responses
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