/r9k/ - ROBOT9999

Tl/DR: you need a budget. Budgets protect from impulse spending.

That's a bummer! You spent 1200 on those glasses? Ouch op! I do not think you can return glasses. In that case you might as well get your money's worth out of them.

Depreciation for that would be: 1200/x where x is how many years you use them. But depreciation does not capture all the value now does it? Those are FASHION glasses, and should be used for FASHION. That's outside my area of expertise.

That's where YOU come in! you are now stuck with those glasses.

Do you A: eat the sunk cost? sunk costs happen. Boomers tell kids that quitters never win, but what they DON'T tell kids is that quitters also don't waste valuable time chasing empty pursuits. Knowing when to give up is important, and the next time you have impulse shopping just remind yourself of those glasses.

Or B: See how they fit your wardrobe. Do they pair well with a suit? You BETTER have a good suit! Those are important for job interviews, business meetings, and other events where you have to be a responsible adult. A business suit is like spiritual armor to protect your confidence from corporate bullraisin. If you have 1200 to piss away on glasses, then RESPONSIBLY save up and buy a nice 1200 suit that fits.

It's weird as hell. People are far more inclined to listen to you if you wear nice clothes than if you wear normal clothes.

So consider a wardrobe budget. Unfortunately first impressions matter, and nice cloths if properly worn is a life hack. Boy if i learned that earlier i would have gone farther in life! Nuance is the key though and this is where i fail. I have no sense of style.

But budgeting is WHERE i do have confidence. Think of money in terms of time and gallons of gas. Not joking here. "how many hours do i need to work to buy this" and "how many gallons of gas could i get instead?" If the answers to those questions spook you then whatever you were looking at is something you can do without.

I can get into the real autistic details if people want like food rationing to save money and weight and using spreadsheets for tracking gains.

>>43840
Oh thanks, money isn’t really an issue for me, I’m single, have an effectively unfireable ‘tism math job, and even though I’m in NYC my dad owns the apartment so it’s free and cost of living doesn’t wear me down…..

My workplace is suits daily… I actually just had a suit fitting done, I posted about harassing the Japanese woman on another thread here, but I just stayed quiet and let her touch me to measure. I should have made a move in hindsight, I could almost feel our longing, but maybe I’m just imagining that too.

I’m quite the mess and I don’t enjoy this at all! As I’m sitting here, I’m actually deeply unhappy and don’t know why or what to do.

I think I’ll just wear these everyday, I don’t know the difference between regular and fashion glasses. My head doesn’t hurt when reading now.

>>43841
Are you an Actuary? That's the closet thing to a mentat we have right now. I know actuaries CAN get married, because this one guy i knew in college back in my mad science phase, his sister was marrying an actuary and his dad fell asleep when the actuary was explaining why he loved that girl. I have no idea how that marriage is doing…

>Oh thanks, money isn’t really an issue for me, I’m single, have an effectively unfireable ‘tism math job, and even though I’m in NYC my dad owns the apartment so it’s free and cost of living doesn’t wear me down…..

Money is not an issue "at this moment" but what about 20 years from now? You have your life ahead of you, that's a WARNING as well as a MOTIVATION!

>My head doesn’t hurt when reading now.
That's 1200 well spent, could have gotten them cheaper, BUT would you have bought them? This is a weird esoteric business lesson on the power of aesthetics.

>I don’t know the difference between regular and fashion glasses
The cost. I don't understand it that well either. women do. or at least they claim they do? maybe there is some hidden "legion of women" fortress where they innovate new ways of playing mind games? I doubt that because women are crabs in a bucket and will drag each other down.

>I should have made a move in hindsight, I could almost feel our longing, but maybe I’m just imagining that too.
I think you made the right call. Being a polite customer is important for business. NOW if you see her again, OUTSIDE of the tailor shop then ask her about her day and suits. If you are wearing the glasses ask her if they match the suit, and that you are disappointed in them. Judge her answer: is it professional? Does she smile? Do you think she liked the conversation? Japanese women are hit or miss. People think they make the best wives but they can be gold diggers and they tend to have the sex drive of a panda after they have a kid.

>I’m quite the mess and I don’t enjoy this at all! As I’m sitting here, I’m actually deeply unhappy and don’t know why or what to do.

Then we get the value out of those glasses. This is where i HAVE some esoteric knowledge, or at least think i do.
So let's take this equation, the depreciation equation: 1200/x. X = years worn. Now we need to assign variables that capture the uniqueness of the glasses. These are things for you to assign. As we are looking at the personal value of this purchase not the financial value. Do they raise conversations? did they make you feel better about a situation? A ballistic plate is a sunk costs until it stops a bullet. Those glasses may save your butt in a weird way.

I have this weird obsession in trying to identify intrinsic value of things. For example i believe that video game piracy sells more games, not fewer, as pirates seem to always buy the remasters. What are the values of hand rails? What is the value of a pencil sharpener? Weird yes, but it IS helpful for budgeting and planning.

I like to save because i HATE waste. I feel bad. did my ineptitude hurt someone else? did i raise the costs for everyone by contributing to scarcity? It's a very difficult line because there is a HUGE difference between being a responsible spender and being a miser. I knew of an accountant who just REFUSED to replace a furnace and of course the thing was blowing out carbon monoxide. There are some things in life we do NOT cut corners and costs with, and other things we do.

Don't stress too much over it, and when you get the time ponder these things yourself. this builds your mental tool box and regret is a VERY powerful tool.